I really love my work helping others to grow and heal and at the same time doing the same for myself.  I think back often on the time I had a lot of therapy in early 2000s.  I still speak to the same lady now for sessions to help me grow personally and professionally.  I remember this incredible feeling of profoundness in me being my best self and helping others achieve the same.  It did actually work for sure but I saw over time how different mentorship and support is also important.  My work in becoming a coach helped me to see how sometimes the information and healing of Therapy and Counselling can potentially lead to loops without breaking the original state.
I became fascinated by the idea of state breaks and working in this space of altering this then helping a new mindset and way of being to develop.  This is where we really role model and power towards our goals and the life we really want.
I had some stressful news last week but took great charge of my state each day which I feel totally great about.  As I worked with clients throughout the week and I work to dip into Coaching and more Therapy style way of working I noticed a lot of more beneficial dipping into the therapy mode which was helpful.  It’s this space I feel which allows us to be really fully human and just break and heal.
It’s funny doing the Tony Robbins workshop.  I kind of wonder if there is any under current with him but he describes this being wired towards gratitude etc and optimal beautiful state which I feel there is a wonderful truth is and I feel he does genuinely do it.
For me personally I feel I would likely never be a pure Coach to that level as I feel there is always the space of breaking which is generally part of being human and I always want to allow a going to that space in others and in myself.
On Saturday I just allowed a breaking to occur.  A missing of the gym class in the morning and a rest in funnily enough allowed resonant dreams to surface for me.  After seeing my nephew I just gave myself permission to eat junk food and just relax around and watch netflix.  It’s here when I genuinely feel a just listening to how we are and allowing a breaking to occur can all really help.  To actually not always rewire but to actually love the part of you (or in this case me) that just wants to slob around and actually feel a bit crappy and break a bit.
Gym today changed into just a mellow walk out and a coffee and I feel better for just allowing myself to just be human.  I will be back to my schedule next week and absolutely love being in charge of my business which is growing.  My 530am gym classes are also incredible.
When we allow ourselves just to be I feel this does open up the more intuitive self care human flowing part of us where things can reconfigure.
I love all the coachy space and my work there but I feel there is always the importance of the other side.  I can also see the argument of a colleague of mine who said he felt there could almost be a danger in people seeing all the hyped up coachy side and feeling there was something wrong with them if they couldn’t get there.
I shared recently about the wonderfully human Jane McGonigal interview who made the game and book superbetter ironically about post traumatic growth when she beautifully acknowledged the pain of her injury and wishing it hadn’t happened.
Contacting Amanda (my original mentor) this week to book in and noticing my space and some of my clients’ space this week made me reconnect with my personal therapy space and the beauty of holding that space for another.
There is a wonderful book I often remember the philosophy of and often recommend to clients called ‘Going to pieces without falling apart’ which speaks about the need to allow yourself to feel and to break so issues do not get squashed into the shadow and ultimately errupting.  There is always an important lesson there for everyone.

Wishing you a lovely peaceful day.