I read this really interesting passage in the book ‘Principles’ by Ray Dalio p159. I found it quite profound and important. It seemed clear for me that seeing this distinction then operating as the designer in your life is vital.

‘One of the hardest things for people to do is to objectively look down on themselves within their circumstances (ie their machine) so that they can act as the machine’s designer and manager. Most people remain stuck in the perspective of being a worker within the machine. If you can recognise the differences between those roles and that it is much more important that you are a good designer/manager of your life than a good worker in it, you will be on the right path.

To be successful, the ‘designer/manager you’ has to be objective about the ‘worker you’ is really like, not believing in him more than he deserves, or putting him in jobs he shouldn’t be in. Instead of having this strategic perspective, most people operate emotionally and in the moment; their lives are a series of undirected emotional experiences, going from one thing to the next. If you want to look back on your life and feel you’ve achieved what you wanted to, you can’t operate that way.’