The classic empowered communication I teach is ‘adult to adult communication’.  Key words here are to be assertive, honest, time appropriate, and to express our wants and needs.  

This is the communication style to practice classically in romantic relationships or with friends or people in your immediate surroundings when although there are things you may wish to improve that you don’t feel in any imminent kind of danger.

If you have been feeling disempowered and frustrated in your relationships it’s likely you have a level of ‘child’ in your communication whereas you are being passive and your needs are not being met.  This typically leads to inner distress, disempowerment, frustration, and depression.  This is a sad space to be in and is a path to nowhere fast.

It takes courage to show up in a more adult way and we need to be aware that the other person may not immediately like it .  We may need to push harder than we have before so we can create something new.  

You may be saying to yourself well this sounds good but I really don’t feel I can.  It’s just too hard.  This is where the therapeutic process comes in to get a healthy level of connection with yourself.

In my counselling and coaching sessions I create a supportive space for you to just be.  In this environment I find people are able to explore their experiences with more compassion and learn to put themselves first more.  It’s strange that putting yourself first is what leads to the best relationships !!

I find this journey of practicing adult communication goes hand in hand with the building a healthy relationship with yourself.  Recognising that you are a person of value with a right to exercise certain expected standards in your life can often be a major breakthrough and have ripple effects way beyond the current circumstance.

By working with me weekly I create a trusted space to allow you to explore your emotions around what is going on and to just allow you to be you.  Some of the answers will naturally come from you but also together we can then create possible strategies around how you may work better with the people of concern to us so you can feel better about the relationship.