Ever since I got into therapy and linked with the work of Carl Rogers’ I have been astounded by the level of which the act of looking after our feelings leads to us becoming more constructive and all round better people.  It was thought my critics as I’ve said before that this would lead to narcissism but it did and does the opposite where we really aspire to be our best selves and grow to aspire to be amazing people who change things for the better by using the power of oneself.

It’s interesting to think about nurturing feelings that may seem destructive at first.  I remember in my learning how I detached from a past friend who was very judgemental and got me onto the whole notion pf narcissism which then became my speciality in work.

Narcissists really operate from a very superior holy than thou judgemental morality and are really good at rationalising.  Recently I thought about the notion of anti intellectualism and thought about does this going into a feeling level mean you are becoming anti intellectual.  I found an interesting yes and no answer.  You definitely do not reject intellect but rather you reject narcissism through intellect which is the attack narcissists create to take control and hijack our identity.  The intellect which is being used to attack and violate our more intuitive selves where we grow from.

You may or may not be a very intellectual person but it is beside the point.  We all have a right to live out our lives in peace and live a life of integrity.  The topic of narcissism would give interesting overlap with what Carl Rogers saw as people who would stop more of an evolution to a world of more ‘fully functioning people’ where people are in touch with their own organismic valuing system and are just growing to their true selves.  Everyone has their own separate realities and it is a passing of love between individuals which is important and seeing one another grow and create their own empowered lives on their own terms.

Looking after our emotions primarily and to feel safe and nurtured allows us to just create and build our own integral path forward in whatever way that may be.  Abraham Maslow said on a similar path to this that the writer naturally writes, the scientist practices science.  I guess also the football player will naturally be the football player.  It’s all about a looking after our emotions first.  This can seem like it is a rejection of intellect but it needs to be looked at deeper than that always.

It’s in the last week I’ve been pretty much sick in bed.  I noticed how I wanted to get on with my usual morning routine etc but my body and emotions were a mess and I just learned to rest and just take care of me and be with me.  I have had lots of restructuring going on and it was just this morning I suddenly felt more peaceful in myself.  Doing everything we need to look after ourselves can never be underestimated.  Anyone can always work to develop more self compassion and in doing this we can connect more and more to our true selves.  Always stay true to you and never allow yourself to be hijacked.