I really enjoyed the book Psychocybernetics by Maxwell Maltz and how he looked at how a person’s self concept evolves and changes.  He discussed a man who had been in and our of prison and said he somehow just felt himself always going back there as if he ‘just knew the places to those parts of town’ where he would get into trouble.

Often there are so many ideas about how to grow and change that it can get confusing but there can be a real elegance in simplicity.  A book on coaching went into this in more details.  Football coaches speaking to their teams and the players in instructions of 10 words or less.  ‘Decide where then hit’ were something like the instructions given to players before a penalty shootout.  The simpler the better.

In the case of the Maxwell Maltz client he was recommended to keep a diagram in his pocket.  A picture just showing 2 paths one which is going back to prison, the other which is walking to freedom then to just feel into his choice and which path he was going down.  George Lucas once spoke about the success of Star Wars and said how it was easy for someone to feel into if they are going down the path of the Jedi or the Emperor.

Here you may use this to just feel into your own roles.  If you’ve been the scapegoat in the past, what is the opposite you are now wishing to be ?  Maybe this could just be named empowered me.  We may be aware the path to being the scapegoat has been learned well and well worn but if we are aware of this and want to change and are aware of the other path we are now just creating a new way of being and a new map.  We can feel into day by day energetically if we are moving towards the scapegoat or to the new self.

Keep it simple and just keep feeling into the person you are wanting to become and recognising the signposts to that eg happier relationships, flow states etc then recognise where you are going off track.  Maybe a diagram could help you too ?