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August 14, 2024

Benefits of choosing Counseling Packages for Lasting Change

Why Consider Counseling Packages?

Are you considering counseling with me? You’re always welcome to book a one-time session through the direct link provided here: Session Booking. However, if you’re looking for counseling packages for lasting change, I highly recommend considering one of my packages. These packages are designed to provide sustained support and deeper transformation.

The Limitations of One-Time Sessions

While a one-off session can certainly provide immediate relief, much like scratching an itch, I’ve found that true, lasting transformation requires more sustained engagement. Over time, I’ve noticed that those who attend just one session often miss out on the deeper, life-changing benefits of ongoing work. Therefore, it’s like opening a door to new possibilities, only to close it again too soon.

Why Packages Offer More Value

This is why I offer packages of 5 or 10 sessions at discounted rates. These packages provide ongoing support and allow us to delve deeper into the issues you wish to address. Furthermore, while private counselors may not always offer such options, I’ve found that these packages have significantly benefited my clients.

What to Expect After the First Session

Discussing Future Work After an Initial Session

Many clients start with an individual session. At the end of this session, I always add up to an extra 10 minutes to discuss possibilities for future work. Although I’m open to one-off sessions, I believe it’s more beneficial to look ahead and consider what we can achieve together with a package of sessions.

Applying NHS Experience to Private Practice

Reflecting on my time working within the NHS in the UK, clients were often given 8 sessions, with the possibility of extending to 10 or 12 sessions depending on their needs. This structured approach proved highly effective, and as a result, I’ve brought this mindset into my private practice.

The Importance of Commitment

Committing to a package of sessions is a powerful step. Although commitment doesn’t guarantee immediate results, it does create a framework for meaningful progress. Moreover, the very act of showing up consistently allows us to work through old patterns and move toward new possibilities.

Exploring Deeper Issues Together

Discovering the Root of the Problem

Often, clients discover that the issue they initially sought help for evolves as we work together. What may start as a general sense of unease can transform into a deeper exploration of one’s relationship with themselves and others. Therefore, this is where the true value of a package lies—in the ability to explore, understand, and heal on a deeper level.

Ready to Take the Next Step?

If you’re interested in booking an initial session or want to learn more about my counseling packages for lasting change, feel free to reach out:

Further Reading on Counseling

Here are some additional resources for more information on how counseling helps and the benefits of multiple sessions:

June 17, 2024

Finding Your Destiny by Fixing What is Bothering You

Introduction

I recently attended a psychology lecture and thought it would be great to share its content on finding your destiny. In the world of social media, there is so much comparison for people, which can be destructive, I think.

The Impact of Comparison and Overthinking

Very often, we can find ourselves in a place of comparison paralysis. Moreover, even without comparison, overthinking what this big thing we need to do may be and consequently not really doing anything at all.

The Symbolism of Yin Yang

The lecturer I was listening to drew attention to the Yin Yang symbol you may be familiar with. Specifically, this can be seen as a representation of order and chaos with the line in between the two sides being ‘the way’ we are working to find. This is the essence of Tao.

Identifying and Fixing What Bothers You

Looking around you literally just in your physical environment, you can easily notice from sensation things that are bothering you. For instance, are there some empty glasses still on the desk? Are there some wayward papers you could tidy up?

The Principle of Getting Your House in Order

The teaching I was listening to discussed the general idea of ‘getting your own house in order’. Essentially, it’s all about really taking things back to the most basic level and going from there.

Insights from Carl Jung

I’m reminded also of some Carl Jung I have been reading, who spoke about how God speaks to us in our dreams through symbols and how often people don’t find God ‘because they don’t look low enough.’ You can find more about it in his book Man and His Symbols.

The Concept of ‘Good’ and Practical Solutions

This isn’t to talk about God as a necessary out there being but rather a meditation of some way of ‘good’. Therefore, the way forward is maybe much more readily available than we think.

Creating Order from Chaos

By constantly dealing with what is bothering you, there is inevitably a process taking place. Consequently, you will be creating greater order from chaos which is around you and falling in line with what Tao calls ‘the way’. Learn more about the meaning of the Yin Yang symbol.

The Journey of Addressing Small Issues

It’s an inevitability that by doing this, you will be branching out more and more into things that are bothering you.

Avoiding Comparison Paralysis

All too often, it seems we look out there too much to stop ourselves before we even start by a type of comparison paralysis and look at big social things we’d like to change when our bedroom is a mess.

Starting with What’s Bothering You Nearby

Taking things back to this simplicity of starting with what is bothering you near you can set you on a journey of consistently making a greater peace of mind. This is the way. This is destiny. The things that bother you will keep showing up so you can solve greater problems and you can become more fully expressed and become more of a person of value. Consequently, finding your destiny becomes a clearer and more achievable path.

Conclusion

Addressing these issues is essential in the journey of finding your destiny. By consistently dealing with what is bothering you, you create greater order from the chaos around you. Ultimately, this process aligns with the Taoist concept of ‘the way’. As you solve smaller problems, you build momentum to tackle larger issues, ultimately leading to a more fulfilling and meaningful life.

All the best,
Phil


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April 30, 2024

How competent are you ?

Stages of competence.

When doing something new we naturally go through stages of competence. We start at unconscious incompetence. At this stage we don’t know what we don’t know what we don’t know so to speak. If we were to apply this to driving we don’t even know what a car is.

Following this we become consciously incompetent. We’re aware that there are cars and that we have no idea how to drive one although we may have an idea that learning could be a good idea. At this stage we may even have looked in a car and had an increasing realisation of I don’t know what the hell I’m doing.

Following this we may start to learn and we become consciously competent over time. We are driving and we think constantly about what we are doing. We may have an ongoing dialogue with ourselves as we drive. Something like ok I need to change to second gear now, okay so I’m approaching a traffic light I must press brake and the brake is here.

After much practice and habit forming we then become unconsciously competent. This is where we are just driving. It’s what we do. We get in the car and we just drive.

It’s good to think of these stages and the term competent and what you may want to get competent in. We see this in kids learning to walk where they just try and try and ultimately get there. The key thing here is to just remember that it’s a journey of progress through the stages and we just learn by doing.

It’s about being aligned to what it is you are doing. Couples do this with me in their relationships as they build a new way of being with one another. It may feel unnatural at the start but as long as it’s aligned for you/you both it doesn’t matter. Just honour the stages and where you are at. What are you looking to get more competent in?

January 17, 2024

Human Design. A curious path to possibly explore for building foundations in your life. 

In my work I am always looking for the best way to help people to build foundations in their own life and then to build the best possible relationships with other people. 

Over the years I have tended to explore things personally and then find the value and then share with others as and when it is all seeming good and the way to go so to speak. 

It was in the last few months I came across the idea of ‘Human Design’. I have to say I am finding it very interesting in terms of a level of application with my own life and now some of my clients are also benefiting from and resonating with the ideas here. 

It’s partly based on Astrological charts although going deeper and much more specific. Without me trying to explain it fully and likely not even explaining it properly (as I’m just a beginner) I’ll just say you can get a free chart for yourself online such as here: https://ahumandesign.com/ 
 
It uses your birth time, date and place to create it for you. 
 
There are a lot of details in a chart but the main things which can give an immediate jolt to work with should you be interested is that you get a classification of being a : Generator, manifesting generator, manifestor, projector, or reflector. These are all different ways of being in the world which are quite easy to relate to ways we may have been conditioned to be. There is then a specific authority in terms of how we be in relation to this so to speak. 
 
It does get more and more complex but if I just quote a course I’m doing around this the person who seems something of an expert on it thought that 80% of your outcomes can come from just understanding your type and then your authority. 
 
I admit I was skeptical about this for sure. I do think healthily skepticism in fact is a healthy thing but I have found it somewhat resonating as a thing to explore. 
 
I am a Generator myself and my authority is in responding and responding via emotional authority. 
 
This is something that I’m currently on a journey of learning more about and applying to my life. I wanted to just share with you where I’m up to and my thoughts so far. 
 
As you know I am committed to helping people the best I can to build foundations in their lives and build their best possible relationships and I certainly feel this is a potential tool to use to do just that. 
 
If you are interested I’d recommend just getting your free reading on the link then having an explore into the core components of it. 
 
So much of Counselling and Psychology is around us being true to ourselves etc etc and it’s very interesting to think if this does really provide another piece of the jigsaw potentially. 
 
All the best and wishing you a lovely rest of the day. 
 
Phil 


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