When I did my Coaching training my teacher Eban Pagan spoke and wrote about coaching being an ‘asset’ skill. He spoke more in his book ‘Opportunity’ too about how in his life he learned to recognise skills he was learning which were particular assets rather than things ultimately never being used again.

He was talking about an asset here in the sense of something that gains more value over time. Him and his partner Annie who ran the course spoke about the idea of the coach as being a new role and how it is all about the particular focus of looking at where someone is right now and taking them to the next level.

I love being a Counsellor and Coach and although I’m sure not everyone wants to be an actual Counsellor and Coach I do believe that both the skills to some degree are an asset for anyone to possess.

There was a lovely book I read once called ‘Counselling skills in everyday life’ by Geldard and Geldard which just by name as well as content made me see how valuable Counselling skills are for people to learn and practice.

I find in my practice how incredible it is for just small communication tweaks to make such a massive difference.

Counselling as a profession and as a skill to learn is about letting people explore their emotions, seeking to listen and understand. Coaching again is about where someone is at and where they want to head to.

I’d really like to encourage anyone to always be seeking to have an awareness of developing these skills because not only will you inevitably create better relationships with other people but also with yourself.

By applying Counselling and Coaching skills to yourself you inevitably go on your own heroes journey? What really makes you tick ? What do you want from life and from relationships ? Where’s the hero in you ? Why do you always feel this way when this thing happens?

Counselling and Coaching are true asset skills in my view that anyone wherever they are in life should be seeking to get better at both for themselves and for others around them.

Remember as you do this to always seek to grow and be true to you.

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I really enjoyed the book Psychocybernetics by Maxwell Maltz and how he looked at how a person’s self concept evolves and changes.  He discussed a man who had been in and our of prison and said he somehow just felt himself always going back there as if he ‘just knew the places to those parts of town’ where he would get into trouble.

Often there are so many ideas about how to grow and change that it can get confusing but there can be a real elegance in simplicity.  A book on coaching went into this in more details.  Football coaches speaking to their teams and the players in instructions of 10 words or less.  ‘Decide where then hit’ were something like the instructions given to players before a penalty shootout.  The simpler the better.

In the case of the Maxwell Maltz client he was recommended to keep a diagram in his pocket.  A picture just showing 2 paths one which is going back to prison, the other which is walking to freedom then to just feel into his choice and which path he was going down.  George Lucas once spoke about the success of Star Wars and said how it was easy for someone to feel into if they are going down the path of the Jedi or the Emperor.

Here you may use this to just feel into your own roles.  If you’ve been the scapegoat in the past, what is the opposite you are now wishing to be ?  Maybe this could just be named empowered me.  We may be aware the path to being the scapegoat has been learned well and well worn but if we are aware of this and want to change and are aware of the other path we are now just creating a new way of being and a new map.  We can feel into day by day energetically if we are moving towards the scapegoat or to the new self.

Keep it simple and just keep feeling into the person you are wanting to become and recognising the signposts to that eg happier relationships, flow states etc then recognise where you are going off track.  Maybe a diagram could help you too ?